A SILENT TREATMENT: A Memoir by Jeannie Vanasco - Spotlight
She did it to my dad, though. They used the silent treatment on each other, she explained, because they didn't want to say something they'd regret. What does she want to say now that she'd regret? Jeannie Vanasco’s mother starts using the silent treatment not long after moving into the renovated apartment within Jeannie’s home. The silences begin at any perceived slight. Her shortest period of silence lasts two weeks. Her longest was six months. As Vanasco guides us through her mother’s childhood, their shared past, and the devastating silence of their present, she paints a layered, complicated portrait of a mother and daughter looking, failing, and—in big and small ways—succeeding in their efforts to understand each other. In the margins of her research, at her kitchen table with her partner, in phone calls to friends, and in delightful hey Google queries, Vanasco explores the loneliness and isolation of silence as punishment, both in her own life and beyond it, and conf...